The good, the bad and.. that’s it

Well, it’s been almost 3 months but the blog is up and running.
Weird thing, i keep getting comments. Most of them are spam, of course, but lots of comments are spam in another form. Now, what the heck is that?

I understand wanting to promote your site but.. come on! I do that too but i comment with a relevant name when i have something to say, i try to say more than “thanks for posting”.

Is this a new form of spam? ’cause if it is, it’s really annoying.
It’s flattering to have hundreds of comments and have the number growing constantly so i figured i could write a small guide to comment writing.

Tips for writing nice comments:

- First things first. Let people know you’re online
You have a website and want people to know about it.
By commenting on blogs, websites or writing in forums you let’s me know you exist too. I might have not known you exist so by deciding to be active online you can easily let me know about you or your website.

- Attract others to your website
Try to write something on the subject. Maybe you also have a point of view- share it.
Writing a comment related to the post makes me think you read it, liked or disliked it and you have something to say. That matters to me so I might also visit your website because you might have something interesting and worth visiting. Comments like “Great post” or “Nice info” makes me think you didn’t even bother to read anything so why should I bother to visit your website?

- Don’t manipulate anyone
Be discreet. Attract others to your site by being polite, not by force.
You are a person, you have a name. Use your name or nickname for posting. Using names like “my-entire-website-name” or “this-is-what-i-do-online” makes me delete your comment, it looks like spam. There is a box in which you put your nickname and a box for putting your website. Use them for what they are or I will surely mark you as spam.

Summing up, letting people know you are online by good on-the-subject comments, you might attract a few visitors. This is what commenting to promote your website is all about, writing quality comments so people would be attracted to you for your work.

I’m really trying to keep up with updating my blogs, but it looks like people are complaining about this one

So, to sum up, i work now! Finaly! I work at some tomato campaign and it’s really tireing, i work in shifts and don’t have much time to spend on the internet because i’m not the only one using it so… less online time for me.

Anyhow, moving was the best thing that could happen to me and my other half! We can “be free” now, no more ‘wash the floor everytime you pee’ because those… those.. things (i can’t call them people, i’d offend all human beings) demand it, no more ‘there’s no money in the house, you starve’ because the things kept food under their bed or something, no more gossips to hear at night because those two idiots talk to loud and we could actually hear them call us ‘jerks’, ‘trash’, ’stupid’ and other wonderful appelatives, we can actually enjoy breathing from now on.

So, that’s all in all. I’ll come back with more news soon

Fashion.. it’s something that these days is quite popular and if you don’t folow the new trends some might think you’re a dork. In my opinion, i really don’t care what the new colors are for the next season, or what the style of your clothes must look like. I always have been a fan of sporty clothes and mainly this is how i dress.

Apparently though, the majority of teenagers these days are very keen when it comes to new fashion trends..

Here in Italy i noticed how cool it is for people to wear their pants as low as possible. I tried it once, just for curiosity (i was at work, in my uniform – a pair of green pants, pretty large ones) and i immediately pulled them back up (my butt looked like a train ran over it, it was that flat!). Others though… wore them as low as they possibly could, just so they won’t fall down completely.

I see people wear their pants like this every single day. I saw different undies, from boxers to pretty colored bikinis.

But fashion isn’t fit for everyone. Some look very ridiculous wearing the pants low like this. Like a boy i saw once in a bus. He was wearing a par of nice bluejeans but when he rised from his chair i actually saw his dorky underwear (those old, very old styled undies..). His pants were so low i don’t understand why he wore them anyway! It’s warm enough outside…

All in all… i prefer to look at myself in the mirror before going out and looking like crap. Maybe for some the new trends fit, but fashion is not for everyone.

Think again before showing yourself on the street looking ridiculous. Create your own style and try to make people admire your clothes, not laugh at you because you have no idea how to dress..

This is like saying “men…” or “oh boy…”, in a sarcastic way.

I’ve been adding my sites to link directories, a few per day not to harm myself with too much work and i noticed the pending list of sites. Now this is the reason i’m writing this…

There are a lot, and i mean a LOT of directories that have no less than.. a few thousands pending links. What’s the use of having a directory if you have thousands and thousands of pending links?! The biggest number i saw was 65.364 links pending… After i submited mine there were 65.366, so i’m hoping maybe in a few years i’ll get accepted or rejected..

I prefer directories that accept sites without reciprocal URL, if i was to add a link for every link directory i submit my site to, i’d need a whole sidebar just for the links. And besides, what’s the use of providing the link if i have to wait years for the directory to accept my site?

I’ve been trying since yesterday to manually create my xml sitemap so that it doesn’t show a list of links, but my actual posts. I saw examples but i still can’t find a way to make it look like the RSS.

I changed my settings in my dashboard but nothing has changed within the sitemap. Still shows a long list of links…

I’m confused.

For the first time in my life i went to a restaurant. By accident My other half and i were invited to a conference in a hotel and for lunch we were all invited to eat at the hotel’s restaurant.

“oh, my”, i thought, “i’m gonna have lunch in a real restaurant”. Expensive food, weiters dressed sharp and everything, just like in the movies Too bad i left dissapointed.

The food was… less than nothing. There were 3 dishes and dessert.

The first dish was a big plate with 3 pieces of transparent meat, coverred with 3 pieces of salad and 3 pieces of a tomato… “great”, i thought, “i will only eat the vegetables but maybe they have something else coming, something more consistent”.
Wrong…

The weiters noticed i don’t eat meat and offered to prepare me something based on cheese instead of meat.

The second dish was a small (and i mean SMALL) piece of lasagna… “ok, this must have been the apetizer. I’m really hungry, when does the real food come?”

It didn’t… For the last dish i got a plate with cheese. 3-4 pieces of cheese, 2-3 salad leaves and a small piece of mozzarella. “oh my god, we’re gonna starve until we get home..”

I always thought that going to a restaurant was something luxurious. For a high price i expected something to ease my hunger but instead i left more hungry than i arrived. Not to talk about my other half, he’s a man, he clearly eats more than me.

Of course the day ended in a fantastic wish to eat a kebab. We felt like 2 people in the dessert and the kebab was our oasis! But we were to tired from all that hunger and went straight to bed when we arrived home

From now on if i really have to go to a restaurant, i promise to eat at home before

I’m back and still alive… I had no internet for 2 weeks, it was awful (trust me, it’s a nightmare playing Heroes and Solitaire for so long).

Italians celebrated Easter last Sunday. They’re catholic, like the Pope All in all i find them pretty boring. They go to their families to have lunch, the streets are empty as my wallet and the only Easter-related products were some chocolate eggs with toys inside.

Easter for me was yesterday. My other half and i were supposed to go on a visit out of town but we didn’t quite sleep and didn’t feel like waking up early. Plus it was raining since saturday.
And this was my first Easter without red eggs.

In Romania we have the habit of saying “Christ came back to life”, but since the holiday already passed i hope everyone had a good time and relaxed

Back in Italy

I went home in Romania these past 3 weeks. I wanted to be there for my sister’s birthday, on the 25th of December (yes, Santa gave our parents a cute baby-gift ). So i was home for half of the holidays.

I had fun, a lot of fun. I spent some wonderful time with my best friends, my mom and dad were happy to see me (and happy to see i’m ok), my grandma was crying her brains out when she found out i’m home and we had a nice quiet Christmas (except for my sister’s birthday party.. that wasn’t really quiet it was a blast!).

I said half of the holidays because i really really missed my other half. I couldn’t sleep, couldn’t eat, couldn’t smile at my full-capacity .. so i decided one evening “i should return the heck back!”
And so i did. Packed my bags on Christmas day and left on the 26th.

It was the most annoying trip ever.. Felt like the drivers were sleeping, they seemed to move to slow! But i arrived safe and sound and got the best birthday gift: i got to spend my birthday with my loved one

I wish everyone happy happy holidays and a happy happy new year!

when i work on morning shift i kinda have to get up at 4:30 am…

So.. i wake up, put the alarm on snooze, wake up 5 minutes later to realize.. i have to hurry the damn up!

I jump of my bed (if i don’t fall from it in the first place..), throw my uniform on and jump down the stairs while putting on my socks. I see my roommates still sleeping, my eyes become as big as 2 onions ’cause i hope i didn’t wake them up with my morning clumsiness and i run to the bathroom… i mind my own business then i realize i still have to drink my coffee!

It’s 4:48, just enough time to pour it in a cup (thank god my friend makes coffee in the evening.. hehe). I take it with me on the balcony and look at the clock every 2 minutes.. take a sip, look at the time, take another sip, take 2-3 photos, take another sip.. and so on untill i see it’s 4:56.

I take the cup and quietly place it in the sink, thinking i’ll wash it when i get home… wrong! i – again – accidentally drank from my roomates cup so i have to wash it..

I remember i have 2 sandviches in the fridge, i throw them in my blouse bigpockets and quietly leave home. Now i can finally wake up – plugging my earphones in and listening to some music on my way to the bus

I don’t feel so good… i have a lot of work at my job, i do the tasks of my ex too, since he works in the same place as i do and he also has a second job, and i have a pretty good heart and help as i can.

I also have a lot to learn, by friday .. i have 2 exams, one on friday, one on saturday.. another one next week.. i hope i can make it, at least one i could pass

I’m also really tired, i haven’t slept for a week … only 2-3 hours a night. thank God for coffee

In the meantime, i’m also trying to decide what the heck should i do with my life.. Shish.. it’s hard..

My friend, Ramona, wrote an article some time ago about the concept of love. The main idea is that you can’t be lovers if you can’t be friends. I totally agree.

People change.. a lot, and after a long time of being together you realize you cannot rely everytime on each other it kind of becomes awkward. Sometimes it is better to say ’stop’ and rewind a little bit.

I’m only sorry i realized this today. But it’s all good. Friendship is something you can’t kick away and its better to see this than live a lie or suffer more later.

It’s not the same of course.. usually you first become friends and after a while you date and begin to have feelings.. i think this is why the reverse is more difficult, but i like to think it’s not impossible.

Friendship is good. It is the best thing that can happen after a long term relationship. Maybe after a while the feelings can come back, maybe not, but anyhow it is always good lo live a small door opened

at least it should be. March started and i already threw away the February piece of paper from the calendar

I should be glad that summer is coming soon, holiday’s almost here (well.. 4 more months..), no more school soon.. wait, did i say no more school..?! I am terribly wrong! I will not escape school to soon because some “beloved” teachers thought it would be a blast to flunk a large number of students last semester! So now i have to spend all March studying..

It’s unbelievable how pretentious some teachers are.  I am not complaining i have to learn, i am not complaining i have a stupid schedule, but i am complaining when a teacher has the nerve to ask us to learn some book by heart!
This kind of teachers make our learning system shameful.

I think – and i think many agree – that people are not robots and we shouldn’t have to learn by heart what teachers are teaching us in school. I think they should be more than happy to see that we understand their subject and write the exam in our own words, not theirs.
This is what the learning system is all about: understanding the theory and use it in practice. At least this is my opinion..

How can students enjoy college if our teachers are still this stubborn!?
I wish they would shove their books in the shiny place the sun never shines!

This being said… I’ll get back to studying..

No one should ever be to busy to smile!
A cute thing happened to me today..

I was having some car problems (again… the wonders of having an already used car..) and i skipped school. I almost didn’t do anything today and i was beginning to be bothered by it.

After a few hours of trying, swearing and cursing.. the car finally started it’s engine We (my boyfriend and I) only got to go to a single place of the many places we had to go to today and we were a bit grumpy.. until this happened:
I was driving us on a street and i saw a little boy (he was around 6-7 years old.. he was so cute!) with a big big juice bottle in his hands. He wanted to cross the street. He saw me coming and he stopped, but i let him cross to the other side.
The thing that made me smile was… he yelled “THANK YOU!”. A ‘thank you’ that was so refreshing it made me smile.. a lot!

So, my thought for today is the one i wrote at the start of the message

well… not literally… but it’s rude to call him ‘crazy’

Meet my dog: it’s name is Ghibi. It doesn’t mean anything, it’s some sort of short for “little one”. My sister (who accidentally gave it this name..) named the dog while it was still small… very very small.

In time, the dog grew up.. in only 4 months it’s already taking up my space in bed! Now.. this is literally!
(I will call my doggy “he” from now own, since he’s a member of the family now..)
He has this habbit of getting in our bed in the morning. He sits hit butt on my pillow and puts his head on mine. It’s actually cute… until he starts to chew my hair… uff!

The i start to move. He slept enough so maybe he thinks i too need no more sleep.. so he starts playing with me.. There goes my sleep down the drain…

Oh well… Maybe he thinks I am beautiful enough and don’t need more sleep hehe

Hurray!
I made it!

I just finished installing the new future english blog I welcome myself to the english blogosphere.
I’m off to finding a new theme for this ‘baby’..